Compromise; This word has been a cliché in our daily life. Though it’s dictionary meaning is “To arrive at a settlement by making concessions”, it’s corrupted from its original meaning.
It’s very rare where we find both the sides are getting benefited by leaving some ground for other. According to me Compromise is something between two parties in order to set some curves straight by curbing one party’s interest i.e. the equation is not arithmetic like 1 + 1 = 2 rather, I believe, it’s binary 0 + 1 = 1 .
We found its application in every sphere of life or in each step of life. From leaving some standing-space in bus or train for a co-passenger, accommodating one’s personal hrs for few more work-files requested (late night) by boss, watching ‘SAAS-BAHU’ leaving high-voltage India-Pakistan match for maintaining the “status quo” in home, to holding back one’s desires/likes/feeling to keep happy or to save other’s trivial interest. So, from morning to night, we are very habituated with this term. Does it always pay ? Does it really make other realize that his comport zone has come at the expense of someone else’s.
It’s not so easy to bracket Compromise either as good or bad rather it’s a relative term. If the purpose is noble the Compromise is good otherwise is bad. Let’s take three examples.
On a fine Sunday morning you plan for a short trip to nearby place and you arrange accordingly but on the same day you hear from your mom that your mother want you to take her to the doctor. Will you curtail the trip for sake of your mother interest ?
On a public holiday, you plan to watch a movie with your wife but your wife want you to take her to your mother-in-law ? Will you prefer to give priority to your wife’s desire ?
Being a pragmatic, most of use lie in many occasion but then comes horrible Compromises. You grow an impression that there is no harm (of a habitual lie of yourself) at all and you use this means even for a inconsequential cause. Does this Compromise with truth is justified ?
The answer of the 1st situation is a big YES since it’s undoubtedly for a real cause where you don’t have any other choice. But the answer for the 3rd situation is a strictly NO unless there is no other alternative or unless it’s noble cause. The 2nd scenario is very familiar to us and the answer is very dubious. We speculate what to do. If you are a peace loving man, you will Compromise with your wife but many people may not. But if it happens frequently and Compromise grows from small to bigger occasion and consequently it may put a stain on the relationship.
Even, we find one sided compromise
So Compromise is good up to certain level or when it calls for righteous ground but it’s detrimental or unproductive when your heart doesn’t support you.
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